HOA Nut House

Very carefully and with an independent CPA not in collusion with the HOA Industry. What state are you living in? Because in FL, the HOA industry and HOA lawyers dictate the HOA laws to the legislature and there is very little, if any, oversight of HOA management companies as they are licensed by the state and a great source of income for the state coffers.

Psychologists strongly suggest you not try to "fix" a sociopath - instead, just RUN the other way. Break off the relationship. Sever the business partnership. Move from your current living arrangement.
The emotional, financial and reputation cost is staggering.

This is practical advice for anything HOA. There is NOTHING, no nothing natural regarding HOAs.
Not only do power drunk "volunteers" get involved, devastating such a pure idea (akin to communism) with deceptive, hurtful "we are doing this for your own good - maintain property values" mantras, but meek, indecisive individuals on the opposite end of the selfish human being spectrum.
Now that you are losing your biggest investments, vow nevermore, to "live" in a HOA encumbered community.
(Want to live a healthier, emotionally stable life, protecting and supporting those little ones?)

hoa = FORCES OF DARKNESS